Okay, so this post really has nothing to do with your grandma planning your wedding. It has everything to do with a sweet little memento that belonged to my grandmother: The Bride's Book of Etiquette, by the editors of The Bride's Magazine. Actually, the name on the inside cover is Betty, her sister. Wherever it came from, it was given to me after my grandma passed away. For years, I kept it in a box with a bunch of stuff from my youth. Now, it sits on my desk as a reminder that tradition is important. Plus, I love old stuff.
Since this book was published in 1948, there have been so many changes to acceptable wedding etiquette. I have not read it in its entirety, but browsing through, you can tell how different the world was sixty years ago. There is advice about the order in which the parents should be notified once the couple becomes engaged. "Although it may seem old hat to you, your new fiance should call on your father practically the moment you've said 'yes.' Your father may then give his official blessing and discuss anything with your future husband that he sees fit." Being that Cal and I tackled the task of talking to my dad together, before he proposed, we sort of broke that rule.
The Bride's Book of Etiquette also covers length of engagement, making public announcements (MY, how that has changed!!!), wedding timeline, and more. I was delighted to read through the chapter on wedding customs, outlining the meaning of the honeymoon, wedding rings, wedding cake, etc.
I love that I have this book to remind me of my grandmother, but also of the fact that even our current wedding culture will morph into something new. Being in an industry that isn't going away anytime soon, us wedding planners, photographers, bakers, and florists must be ready to adapt and grow.
The Bride's Book of Etiquette was first published in 1948 by Grosset & Dunlap, New York.