Before Cal and I got married, a very kind, well-meaning coworker said randomly, "Just remember, he's not your Jesus. He can't save you." I thought to myself, "Whoa, that was weird and she totally didn't have the right to assume anything about me." Ya know, I was soooo prepared and soooo ready to be a wife and completely understood what marriage was all about. Duh! Little did I know, I would eventually begin to expect my husband to be everything. It was his job as my husband to make me happy. It was his responsibility to be perfect. Except, it wasn't. -Sterling
Why do girls everywhere look to the man to save them, to make them happy, to be their "everything"? Perhaps it is influenced by our culture of ingenue Disney princesses. Well, I'm here to drop some epic knowledge on you. Dudes ain't perfect. Husbands are screwed up. They make mistakes and they are flawed. Even bigger news: wives aren't perfect either. Coincidentally, we are both humans and humans are incapable of perfection.
The goodness you see in your husband is evidence of what God intended marriage to be and how beautiful and rich a Christian life can be. We are taught to love and forgive, two things that are actions. So, next time your husband does something that further exposes his imperfections, remember he's your husband, not your savior. It's in growing together through mistakes and triumphs that you will both benefit.
As iron sharpens iron,
so one person sharpens another.