Waiting on The Ring

A few weeks back, I talked to the gents about making the most of the proposal, but for us girls, the proposal isn't the hard part. The hard part is that period between the serious 'do we actually plan on getting married?' convo and the 'big question.' Recently, a close friend of mine, who is not yet engaged, brought this up and mentioned how difficult it can be. Unmarried friends, I remember. Within a few months of Cal and I starting to date, we started talking about marriage. However, it wasn't until our 1 year dating anniversary that we got engaged. (I understand this might be a shorter time frame compared to yours, but for me, it felt like an eternity.) During our pre-engagement relationship, I was a crazy woman. Every time Cal and I hung out, I was expecting a proposal. "Oh, you want to go to the 'grocery store'?...Let me make sure I have a cute outfit on first!" "Wait a minute, he doesn't normally dress that nice when we go to the movies." "OMG, he's reaching in his pocket for something!!" Seriously.

On December 31, 2008, I just KNEW that was going to be it. After much anticipation, midnight struck and nothing. I left our NYE party sad and frustrated. The very next day, I got upset with Cal. I told him we had been talking about getting married for months and months, and how could he make me wait so long to start planning, blah blah blah. It wasn't cute. I was wrong. And what I didn't know was that he was planning to ask me the very next day, January 2. (Thank goodness I didn't scare him away!)

How about you try this: Instead of looking at every little movement he makes as a signal that "it's time," trick your brain (and heart) into being excited that he's actually planning something you will only get to experience ONCE IN YOUR LIFETIME. Ladies, I am not ignoring the fact that it's tough to be patient. When your feelings for this person are so real and you've made the decision to love him, you don't want another day to go by without him by your side. Hindsight will be your friend. You'll look back and see that the wait wasn't that bad. When the first few years of your marriage fly by, because they do, oh they do, you'll wish you could go back to the time before the ring.

Don't keep wishing and hoping your life to move faster. Don't do that to your future self. Old Lady (insert your name) will remember the memories you made for her. Savor them. Let them be good.